So with Christmas / Hanukkah and New Year behind us we have just over 6 weeks till the wedding day (eeee!) and with G only home for another 2 weeks before he flies back to Angola (and then comes home less than 52 hours before the wedding!) we have lots to do… not to mention back-to-school stuff for both the kids (R is going to high school in a week!)
For my own sake I’ve written down our To Do lists at the bottom of this post.
One thing I am finding is how chilled I am about details.
Who cares if all our clothes (mine, G’s and the kids’) don’t really match or even ‘go’ together?
Who cares if I arrive in my own old beat up car – everyone will already be seated on the beach and no one will see me arrive in any case…
Who cares if we don’t have huge amounts of tasteful details or old typewriters or whatever it is people think a wedding this year should have?
Or if the kids go out of tune when they sing as I walk up the ‘aisle’?
I really can’t find it in me to get into a state about everything being picture perfect, I just want to marry the man I love and hang out with our family and friends and eat some good food, drink some beer and play music we like even if no one else recognises any of it.
Maybe it’s to do with being 40. I’m just not fussed about the details. If there is love and laughter and no wind or rain I’ll be happy 🙂 I want our wedding day to be about who WE are and what WE like not some idealised photoshoot wedding crammed with show-pieces.
But don’t think I’m blase about getting married. I AM excited. Also about those members of my family who will be flying in WEEKS before the day – having them here will make it more special than any amount of tiers on a cake. I don’t even know what cake we’re going to end up with yet! (see G’s list below).
I’ve already planned my own speech (yes this bride will be speaking at her wedding) and I even got all emo rehearsing it to myself the other day – then had to laugh at myself about that 🙂
The most important part of being ready for this day is the fact that I am so ready to marry the man. I’m excited about the day but I’m REALLY happy about what comes after that – the rest of our lives together.
G’s list:
Pay deposit on honeymoon night (we went to view a place… close enough to walk to from the reception! – yesterday. Lovely big room and gorgeous beach view)
Get quote on bedouin tent (I’m panicking about the wind being blowy on the day) & decide if we can afford it as a backup plan.
- Make an archway (he told me to leave him to it and not tell him what it should look like. That’s quite hard for me but I agreed! In the end I don’t care how it looks really as long as it’s got 4 pillars and a ‘roof’)
Come with me to the pastor and the lawyer (both appointments booked for next week)
Decide which friend to ask to be best man and who to be the MC – and ask / tell them!
Take R to buy wedding clothes – I’m over trying to find something he likes! The rest of us all have our clothes already
Contact his friend K and decide on the cake. (Yes that’s his baby, I don’t care what he chooses, he loves cake and I can take it or leave it so he gets to organise that! K makes stunning yummy cakes so I’m sure it will be fine, whatever they decide on.)
My list:
Go for my next dress fitting (booked for this Saturday)
Book trial app with hairdresser & choose final hairstyle
Get quote on flowers for tables and hair
Find out from Table Mountain National Park about the extra cost for a tent (if applicable)
Make vow cards for G and me, K&R and the parents
Design and print order of service leaflets
Get wedding ring re-sized and engagement ring polished
Organise seating (haybales turning out too expensive / too difficult – where to store them?)
- Buy white flipflops 🙂
Collect feathers from PO (paid and ordered yesterday)
- Make feather bags
- Make playlist for reception
Print B&W photos and buy string and pegs
Make bunting for chair backs with R
Book leave!
Go with G to pastor and lawyer
Try making my own hair halo
Order flowers
Decide on bouquet
Collect shells for aisle
Buy batteries
Pay for dress
- Try out tent
Pay for cake